Living is certainly an amazing thing. Often times we take it for granted. Now I am not going to get philosophical on you. But too many times we get to busy with doing our daily business, and forget to take the time to smell the roses.
I am guilty of doing this. My days are so routine, that I have actually forgotten what day I am in. I have to actually consistently remind myself of what day it is.
Too many times, you say I am going to do this and do that with someone. And before you know it, time has slipped away and days, months and even years have passed by.
Well in this particular case it was years that had slipped away. My dad and I use to do alot of things together when I was younger. But it has been many years since he and I just went somewhere or did something together.
A week or so ago, my dad and I got to talking about NASCAR. And he got to saying how he and I should take a trip to the museum at the Darlington Speedway. And we should also go to Randleman to the Petty Museum.
Well, normally, I would just kind of put it on the back burner. And check into it later. Well not this time. I actually got online checked out the times and prices of both places. Let him know, and I figured that would be the end of that. Because usually that is the way, things kind of go for him and I.
I got to thinking a day or so later. I got to wondering when was the last time my dad and I actually went off together. And I could only remember once he and I went out to dinner, but that too was years ago. So other than the occassion family gathering, that was basically it.
Now, there is one thing I think you should know. Before you go to thinking, she certainly doesn't spend anytime with her family. I work with both of my parents, everyday. So it is not like I don't know what it is going on with them or that I don't see them. I spend 10 hours everyday with them. So we do see it other. And we know what is going on with each other. But that is different. Working with someone and socializing with them is different. So when it comes right down to it, I actually spend more time with my parents than most people do.
So I got up with him and we made plans to go to Darlington.
Well, yesterday, we made that trip to the museum. It was something that only my dad and I share, NASCAR racing. My brother nor sister, care anything for it. My mom no longer cares to watch it. (She has not seen a race since Ernie Irvan retired.) My dad doesn't watch it anymore either. But he and I still keep up with what is going on in NASCAR.
While we were there at Darlington, standing above the racetrack looking down from the perch, (that the speedway has, so visitors to the museum can look down on the track). He was trying to pinpoint the place where Cale Yarborough went flying out of the speedway. He was there that day, and he actually has pictures that he took of Cale flying over the fence. That was when I let him know that the speedway had flipped the track some years ago.
He did not even know that they had flipped the track. But anyway, to make a long story short. When he took into account the fact that the track was flipped, we were standing only yards away from where Cale actually went out of the speedway and landed.
While visiting the museum and watching him take photos and listen to his stories of the races that he had seen, is something that I will always remember. Nothing can ever take away the fact that on that warm Saturday morning. My dad and I spent some quality time together, enjoying talking about something that only he and I have in common. Something that neither of my siblings share with him. And that my friend is priceless.
Great, feel-good story, Tsfan.
ReplyDeleteThis will be a memory of your father that you'll treasure forever. Most of us wish that we had done more with our parents after it's too late.
Gene it was a great day. And I can't wait to see the photos that he has taken. And when I get a copy of the photos from him, I will share them on here. He is a professional photographer, so he will have some great photos.
ReplyDeleteHe is going to put together a DVD of some of the photos that he has taken through the years. I can't wait to see them. He has some great photos of drivers like Curtis Turner, Petty and others.
Good for you, Ann! My Dad has been gone 2 years this past week. Remembering how much he wanted to see the Bud Shootout from the hospital and waiting on the Daytona 500 just days before he died, will always be a great memory.
ReplyDeleteAwesome post tsfan. It brought memories back for me. My Dad and I would go to races when I was a kid. A local short track almost every Friday or Saturday night in summer. Riverside and Ontario when the big boys came to town. I have the fondest memories and remember how my Dad would talk to people and it was so comfortable and natural. As a child I was shy but looking back I'm sure these outings helped me overcome that. I now have been without my parents longer than I was I was with them. You never get over the loss. Thank you for reminding me and bringing some very happy childhood memories back.
ReplyDeleteBev it is never easy to lose a parent. My husband has lost both of his parents now. And it makes me thankful each and everyday for the fact that both of mine are still here, and I get to spend as much with them as I do.
ReplyDeleteSocal, I am glad that it brought fond memories back for you. I cherish each and every memory I have with my parents. And most of my fondest memories are of My dad and myself. Since I was the oldest I got to go along on more alone trips with him when I was a child.
ReplyDeleteGreat that you spend those memorable moments with your dad.
ReplyDeleteI think the most profound moment one of my daughters continually reminds me of was when we went racing at Edgewater Drag Race Way together and she beat me in the finals. I have never lived that down yet after 25 years.
PENNY,
ReplyDeleteTHAT IS THE COOLEST STORY I HAVE HEARD IN YEARS, YOU GOT TO DO WHAT SO MANY OF US WANT TO DO BUT JUST NEVER TAKE THE TIME.
MY DAD AND I NEVER DID A WHOLE LOT TOGETHER, BUT WE SPEND A LOT OS SATURDAYS PLAYING MUSIC TOGETHER WITH MY COUSIN, THE DAY WE BURIED MY DAD JERIS AND I WENT BACK TO THE HOUSE AND AFTER DINNER WE DRUG OUT THE GUITARS AND STARTED TO PLAY, SOMEONE WALKED OVER AND SAID " THAT ISN'T VERY KIND FOR YOUR MOTHER" MY MOM LOOKED UP AND YELLED DAMMIT LEAVE THEM ALONE RC WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY.
SO IT ISN'T THE SAME, BUT THAT IS A MEMORY OF MY DAD AND MY MOM THAT WILL LIVE WITH ME FOREVER.
GUNAQUAT
photogr I have alot of fond memories of my dad and I doing things when I was younger. But like most things in life, as I grew up he became busier, working and I started doing other things. That we kind of didn't have that much time together. But it was at this time that I was able to spend more time with my mom. So I guess it is kind of balanced out. Now I am able to go to spend time with both of them.
ReplyDeleteIt is certainly time I will never regret, and I will always cherish.
Mike that is a great memory. Even though your dad was not there in the physical, I know that his spirit was certainly presence in your home that night and every Saturday night, I can just imagine him looking for you and that guitar.
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